Monday, August 22, 2011

Ohh! Are you still Single?

I wanted to get married since I was 18. So don’t push me into getting married, especially if it is our first meeting since kindergarten graduation or simply our first meeting and I feel bloated. Nyahaha! 

So, my life isn’t at the stage I daydreamed while growing up: a mom at my thirties, spending weekends taking and fetching my first born into her ballet class and probably at some times sitting inside the Principal’s office for my son. Apparently my ring finger is bare. Before you ask another question: I’m perfectly fine.

Chirpy Mom, who wouldn’t want to be like your Brenda or your Cherry now chasing your favourite tots in their nappies? I'm happy and excited for them, but like I’ve said: I’m perfectly fine spending Friday nights sipping Frozen Margarita with my single girlfriends or thinking about baking mini cup cakes. While no one has ever thought yet of setting that Solitaire atop that singled macaroon amid the sugary colourful batch spelling: ‘Will you marry me?’ while I exaggeratedly dilate my pupils (my ring finger is size 6 anyway *wink*), there’s nothing we can do about it. Phleeezzz!

Why should we refrain from asking if a person is still single?

1)    It’s rude - no matter what the relationship is between the two of you and what the occasion is especially if the person is not babbling about his/her single-thon.

2)      It’s not your business -  the person is not applying for an ID nor signing an insurance policy (if then you are selling one, just shut up after obtaining the info).

3)      We’re not in the position or profession – we’re not a lawyer representing his/her case, an HR conducting an interview, his/her Doctor needing his/her history, etc… In short, it’s uncalled for.

4)   We can make the person feel bad if not worse. Especially if followed by: ‘But are you in a relationship?’. Like: ‘Duh!?’

5)       It’s not being sweet, it’s not being nice, it’s not showing concern – unless you will come up with referrals and not suggestions.

The same applies in asking the person’s age especially if he or she is not publishing it in his/her Facebook profile. If you were classmates, just do the math.  



  1. I miss reading your blog.... :)

    I can relate to this!

  2. I so miss you sis!!! :( Friday-after-service sleep over is still the best... :) *hugs*

  3. Oh, another masterpiece of AK...nice blog sis. =)

  4. Ei! thanks for dropping by jeign dear... ;))

  5. Agree!Kainis lalo na kapag yun nalang ang tanong nila kapag magkikita kayo... hay naku...

    Love your blog!.. :)

  6. haha I can relate, I'm in my mid 30's and still single.. and I hate it too when they always point out na dapat ko na magmadali at baka di na ako magka baby.. hihi. prang ganun kadali! lol! ;))

  7. I super agree!!! Hahaha! I'm quite offended when I'm asked with this question. I mean, just because most of my batchmates are already parents or married doesn't mean I have to be, too. Hahaha!

  8. Tripper10, Violy Vallester & Chilipina --- thanks for understanding and sharing the same sentiments... lol... :)

  9. hahahahaha, I have to comment on this :) When I was 15 and wanted to take up medicine my grandmother was so against it because by the time I graduate (24), I will be "laun" or old maid. My grand uncle was against it because he said, hah! why spend so much for her, she will only get married after graduation. Well, I did become a doctor and no I did not get married. My Lola had a paradigm shift in her old age...she was no longer worried that I was single. Why? Because she realized I can take care of myself. You see, she married not because of love but mainly for security. Gone are the days when women needed men to survive. Marriage is a good thing, a God-given thing...we marry because we want to spend the rest of our life with one person, build a family and be partners in creation. when I turned 34, I knew I was not going to get married anymore, so I adopted. My son is now 21 and I am again raising a 4 year old daughter. God is good! So take heart, stay happy and be positive.

    1. HI Merlmd... you've got a nice twist in the story... :) hahaha i'm not yet giving though>>>> this is a lie-long dream since iw as 18... ;-)