Wednesday, May 1, 2013

Top 10 reasons for giving it a second chance




(This not a getting-back-with-each-other 101, I am no expert in being nice.)


one men’s magazine I stumbled upon said that 62% of couples who broke up tried reconciling at least once. True enough, in this age of social networking and electronic stalking, you cannot just make a realistic I-don’t-want-to-see-your-face-ever-again dramatic end to a relationship. Chances are, she is deliberately showing off her new navel ring and he is posting now zit-free face and check-ins out of revenge and after a few days or sometimes months, the reconciliation is announced in their new FB cover page. 

Elizabeth Taylor married (and divorced) Richard Burton twice. Well, she was Elizabeth Taylor – intense and she did not want to mourn and never hid her affairs. It could be wrong for you and it could be right, it could be worth it, it could be getting in the same hell twice. But for those who have tried, the below reasons sit on the brighter side:



1)       Closure – if you never had before, it will be nagging at you. So either you start calling each other special nicknames again or part again in a more friendly way - like a Hollywood couple. It will spare you from what ifs.


2)      2nd chance – everybody deserves it. When it comes to relationships though, only if one is hinting it and both of you are unattached. So be careful, do not mistake one sms of curiosity or concern with wanting to get back.


3)      Impulse. Because you just dropped the bomb out of hormonal rage triggered by sleep deprivation, immaturity, insecurity or anything ugly that day – and you’re too proud to take it back.        


4)    Prove detractors wrong. If the plug was pulled by people other than the two of you, you were peer or family pressured and you want to put an end to your misery.



5)   Forgiving is healthy. Including forgiving yourself.



6)       Change of heart. Time heals all wounds, heartbreaks change you as a person.


7)       Less pretensions. You are pursued again and you can skip the getting-to-know-you-phase, it’s dreadful, remember? It will be same old you, same in laws, same old fights but more understanding. And same old perks that make you happy.



8)      You already know the extent of one’s folly when shove or her craziness when scorned.


9)      Sweet revenge. If hatred is eating you and you want to cut him/her with your crushed ego. But it will be unhealthy and exhausting so I don’t recommend it.


10)    LOVE.


20 comments:

  1. I think closure is the strongest reason and love being the one that would make the 2nd chance a lot better.

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  2. When I read your title I tell myself: "oh really?"...then I saw your post below the photo; "(This not a getting-back-with-each-other 101, I am no expert in being nice.)"

    It's a bit true that taking chances will work, but in my case "NO WAY". I don't like and ENOUGH is ENOUGH.

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  3. True! Love is sweeter the second time around :) Love and relationship means discovering, forgiving and respect. Thanks for sharing this

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  4. I think in any relationship giving it a second chance is worth the effort but it has to be a mutual thing to work.

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  5. I believe in second chances, otherwise there would be a lot of broken families out there. I am glad my parents gave each other not just second but third and fourth chances and in effect, made us children feel secure and stable because we knew no matter what their troubles are, they would always make sure that we were okay.

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  6. everyone deserves a second chance and this second chance should be more important than the first one. Love and respect is the most important that couple should have.

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  7. Love - the only reason for second chances. Nothing less will do...

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  8. Calling your sweet his/her nickname again -- that is cute. Second change is a good barometer to test whether love is real in the first place.

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  9. Then again, there are those couples who decide to go for a second chance but end up fighting anyway. So that signals they are really not meant to be together. Third chances, anyone? :)

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  10. Wow! This is a beautiful post! Indeed, there are many reasons to give second chances. I don't want to sound like a pessimist but there are also numerous reasons to say no to second chances :)

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  11. i agree about second chances :) sometimes love is simply sweeter the second time around or nastier and leads to more heartbreak but you never really know which path it will take unless you try ;)

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  12. We had a second chance love affair with my boyfriend 5years ago, and now my present husband.

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  13. I give second chances, but only once. For me second chances would depend if one person deserves it.

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  14. numbers 5,6, and 10 would be a perfect advice! Love yourselves first before you do it to anybody else in this world full of lies you wont know right? Glad my husband and I has been so good with each other we never had a big fight ever since we got married. we fully understand and accepts each other.

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  15. Second chance is not a bad idea if you still love the other one and if you still not hurt each other yet physically.

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  16. As the worn-out saying goes, "Love is sweeter the second time around." =)

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  17. "social networking and electronic stalking" I'm guilty as charged. LOL I've even wrote a blog with thay intro. Haha! But really, these are some good run downs that would help most people think than to stay foolish. :)

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  18. When you share someone your life it is very difficult to forget. However, they say time heals all wounds maybe closure is a healthy way.

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  19. im a bit romantic in terms of intimate relationship and if ever i am on that situation , i would not leave without fighting to keep the relationship alive

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  20. Haha.. This is a very entertaining read! :) I've had a few break-ups and experienced 1 attempt at reconciling and 1 failed reconciliation. Nevertheless though, I think second chances is not a bad idea as long as the feeling is mutual and both have become more understanding and are willing to make the relationship work the next time.

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